THE HARMONIOUS COUPLE – CASES OF HARMONIOUS RELATIONSHIPS (TODD AND CHARLOTTE) CONCLUSION
April 7th, 2009 | Posted by admin | Category: Men's Health-Erectile DysfunctionNo Comments
“His affairs were attempts to get my attention. When we understood this and discussed it, our relationship went back to normal, and he wasn’t tempted again. Actually, each time he had an affair I saw it as a sign that something was wrong between us and as an opportunity to correct it; and each time I discovered that there was something I was doing that contributed to his wandering.”
Other trouble spots concerned the children—who, on becoming teenagers, began to have problems. This caused friction in the family in general and between Todd and Charlotte in particular. After their son crashed his second car, they went into family therapy. “I realized that I have this stubborn need to be right all the time,” Todd later admitted. “It was getting in the way of my relating to the children. I always want to be seen as Mr. Good Guy, and they didn’t necessarily see me that way, but they couldn’t tell me that because I wouldn’t hear it. So they smashed cars and got into trouble at school.” Added Charlotte, “I had the same problem. I was so busy being Mother of the Year that I didn’t stop to look and listen to what my kids were trying to tell me until it was almost too late. Actually, it’s never too late.”
Todd and Charlotte again managed to work through these rough spots (with the help of therapy) and to maintain both their own, and their family’s, integrity. They are not the perfect television family who raise perfect children. Rather, they are a hard-working, harmonious couple who have managed to maintain that basic harmony over a period of years by taking responsibility, being willing to look objectively at themselves, and doing whatever was considered necessary to deal with the inevitable crises of their marriage.
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GAMES FOR ABSTINENT COUPLES – GAME 2: INDECENT PROPOSAL (PART 3)
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The activist spouse continues to ask the uninterested spouse such detailed questions. The purpose of this is to subtly tease the uninterested spouse and try to provoke his or her buried erotic feelings. (Again, if the uninterested spouse becomes upset, the game should be stopped. It should be played only until such time as the uninterested spouse ceases to be uninterested and begins to show jealously, concern, anger, or the like.) If need be, the game can continue all the way up to the meeting at the hotel. Another plot twist is to actually have the stranger call the uninterested spouse and make the proposal directly to the latter. For example:
“Hi, this is Martin S. You met me at the club. Your spouse and I were talking the other day and she suggested I call you and ask you about it. Do you remember the movie Indecent Proposal?”
The husband may choose to wait at home or to go along to the trysting place. If he goes along, the activist spouse and suitor should maintain the performance until they see the first signs of discomfort. The three may have a drink at the bar of the hotel and Martin may turn to the activist wife:
“You know, Betty, you look ravishing tonight.”
“I never noticed that your eyes were so light blue. They are like some kind of sea coral.” “That’s a lovely thing to say.”
“And you have such delicate bones, the kind that need to be caressed.” “Oh, really?”
“And fine, long fingers that I’m sure have a very sensitive touch.”
“Maybe.”
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GAMES FOR UNATTRACTED COUPLES – GAME 4: VIDEO SEX (PART 1)
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Players: Husband and wife. Activist/s: Either or both. Setting: Home or hotel.
Aim: To arouse sexual attraction and desire through the use of erotic videos or movies.
Game Plan: If one partner is more unattracted than the other, the other partner may want to activate this game some evening or weekend. He or she may surprise the unattracted spouse by slipping an erotic tape into the video player, then partially or fully disrobing in view of the spouse. Perhaps there will be a seductive wink in the direction of his or her partner.
The activist may choose an erotic video of his or her choice, or one of the classics, such as Behind the Green Door, Misty Beethoven, Roommates, or Debbie Does Dallas. After the video has begun to play, he or she masturbates wildly, putting on an act while watching the film, and every now and then glancing at the partner.
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GAMES FOR PERVERSE COUPLES – GAME 5: SWEET, WHOLESOME SEX (PART 2)
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Of course it will not be at all boring. Boredom, as we noted in the second chapter, is a feeling that covers up some other thought or feeling that is being avoided. The activist spouse leads the perverse spouse to bed and proceeds to make love in a very straightforward way, saying, “I love you,” and “I appreciate you” and “You’re wonderful” as he or she softly and tenderly kisses the other and engages in standard lovemaking.
The perverse spouse (or both) may indeed experience boredom at first:
“I’m sorry, but I just can’t seem to get into this.”
“I don’t know. It’s too . . . too . . . straight.” “What else are you feeling, other than boredom?” “What else? I don’t know. Maybe annoyance.” “What’s that about?”
“That something is too . . . too . . . direct . . . too sweet.” “Tell me about it.”
The perverse spouse talks, and then the activist spouse talks—and they will probably learn something new.
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GAMES FOR IMPULSIVE COUPLES – GAME 1: DELAYED GRATIFICATION (PART 1)
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Players: Husband and wife.
Activists: Both.
Setting: Home or hotel.
Game Plan: The rationale for this game is that as long as the members of an impulsive couple succeed in avoiding their deeper feelings of shame and rage, they will remain on a superficial, driven mode of existence, slaves of their own whims. This game uses sexuality to help them to both develop a toleration for frustration and delay gratification.
Basically, the couple is required to abstain from sexual intercourse (and indeed from any kind of orgasmic release, including mutual or self-masturbation) for a period of time— say one month. During this time the husband and wife are asked, instead, to get undressed several times a week and sit facing one another on a bed or couch and make love to one another only with their eyes and words—but without touching. They should sit close enough to touch so as to have the opportunity to resist temptation. Then they should take turns making loving statements.
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