MAJOR PROBLEMS CAUSING STRESS: REDUNDANCY
April 23rd, 2009 | Posted by admin | Category: Anti Depressants-Sleeping AidNo Comments
“The writing is on the wall. Anyone can read it. There will be a take-over. That’s not the problem. The problem for me is that I shall be found redundant. Will be paid off. Thrown to the wolves. The wolves that would tear the flesh from your bones. Don’t know where I can turn. Very few jobs about in my particular field. Very few, and my age is no help. Can’t sleep. I jitter inside. Can see my work going off. That only means the sack is more certain than ever.
‘Had planned an overseas trip. Just the two of us. The wife and I. Every night she is reading about places to visit. Haven’t told her the worst. Haven’t told her the truth. Just vaguely suggested we put it off for a year or two. There’s a chill in the air. I just don’t know what to do.”
The major problem and the associated problem are clearly marked. He needs all the help he can get in the home, or he will come under stress and probably develop psychosomatic symptoms.
The kind of help that he needs is understanding. If she rails against his employers and the injustice they are inflicting on him, it will only increase his level of tension, and make his performance at work so much the worse. On the other hand, she may try to bolster his morale with talk of his ability and experience, and that he will certainly get another job, equal or better, just as soon as he wants it. If she talks like this, he realizes what she says is out of tune with reality, and the gulf between them is so much the greater.
If, however, she can communicate her understanding in that very simple and wordless communication of man and woman, his level of anxiety is reduced and his performance at work is so much the better.
*30/98/5*
