MENSTRUAL PROBLEMS: HOW TO COPE-IN VARIOUS SITUATIONSC-AT SCHOOL:
April 29th, 2009 | Posted by admin | Category: Pain Relief-Muscle RelaxersNo Comments
TROUBLESOME MISERIES-MOODINESS
Adolescence is renowned for moods and boys are just as moody as girls. People always say, ‘Oh well, she’s an adolescent. She’s bound to be moody.’ Which is annoying if you are in a very good temper and on top of the world but often it’s true. Your teens are the most likely time when you’ll be sorting out what kind of a person you are, or want to be. Some lucky people know all along. They and their parents seem perfectly contented with things as they are and nobody urges them to change their ways or alter their character. Others have to think things out at length, and decide whether they’re going to be what they want to be or what somebody else wants them to be. This is often very tricky and can lead to a lot of heart-searching, misery and depression, particularly if you don’t really like the way you are and know what a battle it will be to change yourself.
If on top of that your moods change abruptly, simply because a period is on the way, then your life is even more complicated and you can often find yourself in the middle of a blazing row you hadn’t really intended, or with a broken romance, or in a pitched battle with a
teacher — all made worse by the feeling that you can’t cope with any of it.
For a start, it does help a little if you know it’s only temporary and that by tomorrow or next Wednesday or whenever you’ll be feeling and acting like a different person. It also helps if you can remember to relax, difficult as that is when you are in the thick of some emotional
battle — in fact, almost impossible. But if you can remember at least to unclench your fists, drop your shoulders or breathe in second gear for a bit, it could give you just the few seconds you need, either for a breathing space or even better, to call a halt. And if you try and fail, you’re no worse off.
It can sometimes be a help if your friends and allies know that this is all part of the miseries. But friends and allies should be warned! We are often very unreasonable indeed when we are actually in the middle of a mood. When we have finished a period and we are quite ourselves again it’s easy enough to admit that the mood was part of the miseries, but if they try telling us at the time, it could make things ten times worse. I have been told by girls who know that the very last thing they want to be reminded of is that they’re acting up because they’re female. As one girl said, ‘It’s so bloody patronizing! And of course it’s true —which makes it worse!’ So my advice to friends and allies would be to talk these problems over when everyone is calm and rational talk is possible.
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